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Laughing to Cope

Image Credit: dailymail.co.uk Huu Hung Truong: 2013 Sony World Photography Awards


A-HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

…ahhh

LMAO!


I connected with a wonderfully bubbly woman when I was at one of my lowest lows.  We met quite by chance and immediately clicked like we were life-long friends.  We were in the same boat, she and I, both at extreme low points in our lives, both under the influence of uncontrollable tears, fears and the urge to hurt ourselves and end our lives.

But we laughed.  I didn’t understand it, and I really didn’t care, but oh boy, we laughed.

We laughed at everything, funny things, stupid things, serious things and of course, we laughed at ourselves.

Of everything that I have experienced, laughing with this woman was the most healing during a very dark and difficult time.

Laughing kept me from crying.

Laughing kept me from thinking.

Laughing shook my body and kept me present because I was feeling and experiencing.

Laughing made it easier to cope when I felt that I had nothing left in me for another day.

Laughing relieved some my pain inside, releasing it through positive emotions rather than through tears.

Thankfully, my brain functions normally in releasing feel good endorphins when stimulated by laughter.  I felt good even though I felt like dying.

People looked at us and shook their heads.  They couldn’t understand how we could still laugh, knowing the condition of our mental state.

Did we disturb others with our ruckus?

We probably did, but it helped us to cope, and it helped us to get through.

Laughing Buddha

This holiday season give yourself the gift of laughter.

Wouldn’t it be great to go see a comedy show?  Is there a comedy club near you?

Maybe go see a comedy play or movie.

Have no one to go with?  Don’t let that stop you.  Go anyway.  It might do you good!

It’s always better to get out, but if you can’t, than treat yourself with a movie rental, make some popcorn and enjoy it at home.

Pursue that good hard belly laugh!

Go ahead!  It’ll be good!

Or do it if only to prove me wrong and be sure to let me know about it!

Cheers!

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Is Hope Enough?

“Every happy ending begins with hope.” 

~ Snow White / Mary Margaret in Once Upon A Time.

What is hope?

Is hope the feeling that something better is just around the corner?   Is it the thought that tomorrow is a new day, an opportunity for a new beginning?  Is it the belief that things are going to get better?

Is this what makes the beaten and battered continue to get up?  Because of the hopeful belief that eventually the beatings they’re getting are going to get lighter?  Or that their batterer is going to stop hitting, never again to lift a fist against them, and they live blissfully in love for the rest of their days?

Really?  Is hope really enough?   Does it really work that way?

The man, who hopes to get that great job but does not apply for the job, just keeps on hoping as he watches his neighbor celebrate one promotion after another.

The battered woman who keeps hoping that her partner will change, eventually passively dies at the hand of her batterer.

The woman, who cannot swim falls overboard from a cruise ship, hopes desperately that she will be saved, but drowns passively with her face down and her limbs unmoved.

Hope is useless without action.

Life is not a fairy tale.  We are not Sleeping Beauty whose prince will someday come to kiss away our curse and dance happily ever after, whirling us around in a ball gown spiced with magic.   We cannot lie passively waiting on our hope to change our life, to bring us happiness.

We are citizens of the 21st century.  We can do more than hope.

We can do.

We are able.

We can enable ourselves to define our day, our week.  (That is enough for me, for now.  Next week is another story).

Yes, every happy ending begins with hope.   But that is only a beginning.

Let that hope spark action, to do more than believe that everything is going to get better.

Grow that hope by taking action.  We must do for our self, for our health, for our mental and emotional well-being.

We must not give away the only real power we have, the power over our own body, our own mind.

We must not give that power away, to our doctor, to our therapist, to our psychiatrist…

We must not merely ask for, “Please heal me,” and leave it to our healthcare provider, or anybody else to heal us.  We must take an active role in our well-being.  They can only give us the tools with which to heal.  We must then take those tools and utilize them as they ought to be used.  The doctor can give us the prescription, but it is up to us to put that pill into our mouths, and keep on taking it.

We must manage our own health, our own bodies, and our own minds.

Where to start?  

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”  Lao-Tzu 

My first step was making the decision to heal, to take control of my body, my mind, and my thoughts.