Is Hope Enough?

“Every happy ending begins with hope.” 

~ Snow White / Mary Margaret in Once Upon A Time.

What is hope?

Is hope the feeling that something better is just around the corner?   Is it the thought that tomorrow is a new day, an opportunity for a new beginning?  Is it the belief that things are going to get better?

Is this what makes the beaten and battered continue to get up?  Because of the hopeful belief that eventually the beatings they’re getting are going to get lighter?  Or that their batterer is going to stop hitting, never again to lift a fist against them, and they live blissfully in love for the rest of their days?

Really?  Is hope really enough?   Does it really work that way?

The man, who hopes to get that great job but does not apply for the job, just keeps on hoping as he watches his neighbor celebrate one promotion after another.

The battered woman who keeps hoping that her partner will change, eventually passively dies at the hand of her batterer.

The woman, who cannot swim falls overboard from a cruise ship, hopes desperately that she will be saved, but drowns passively with her face down and her limbs unmoved.

Hope is useless without action.

Life is not a fairy tale.  We are not Sleeping Beauty whose prince will someday come to kiss away our curse and dance happily ever after, whirling us around in a ball gown spiced with magic.   We cannot lie passively waiting on our hope to change our life, to bring us happiness.

We are citizens of the 21st century.  We can do more than hope.

We can do.

We are able.

We can enable ourselves to define our day, our week.  (That is enough for me, for now.  Next week is another story).

Yes, every happy ending begins with hope.   But that is only a beginning.

Let that hope spark action, to do more than believe that everything is going to get better.

Grow that hope by taking action.  We must do for our self, for our health, for our mental and emotional well-being.

We must not give away the only real power we have, the power over our own body, our own mind.

We must not give that power away, to our doctor, to our therapist, to our psychiatrist…

We must not merely ask for, “Please heal me,” and leave it to our healthcare provider, or anybody else to heal us.  We must take an active role in our well-being.  They can only give us the tools with which to heal.  We must then take those tools and utilize them as they ought to be used.  The doctor can give us the prescription, but it is up to us to put that pill into our mouths, and keep on taking it.

We must manage our own health, our own bodies, and our own minds.

Where to start?  

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”  Lao-Tzu 

My first step was making the decision to heal, to take control of my body, my mind, and my thoughts.

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6 thoughts on “Is Hope Enough?

  1. I like your article.

    Hope can turn into hopelessness if concrete actions are not taken daily. Sure sounds easy but is not. I’m not sure that hope can be a motivator when one decides to “take a few days off” because they have no motivation or sits in the victim box. The victim box is soooo enticing at times, unfortunately :(. I think sometimes it’s just getting up and doing – something more pragmatic than just hope. And after repeated successes, hopefully (no pun intended) it gets easier. Just my take on it.

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    • I agree that victim box is sooo enticing at times. I’ve slipped back into that box more times than I care to admit, and it’s easier to close that box and shut out the world, than to get out and face the world. But that is the daily battle, is it not? To find that little something every morning to keep us going another day. I look forward to your comments. 🙂

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  2. I enjoyed this piece, hope, is such a loaded word and much depends on it, and we know what it’s like to be without it.

    The desire to be well has to come from within, and the journey is tough and can take a long time before you yield results, that alone can send you scurrying back to a dark corner, but it is worth it every painful step.

    For me Hope was a good place to start.:)

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